Our Unwillingness to Change

Many of us at one time or another, have made New Year's resolutions to improve ourselves. Whether to eat better, lose weight, stop bad habits or go to the gym, we made decisions to better ourselves. But after a month or so, our commitments for change had all but vanished.

And as each year passed, every new resolution eventually faded back to our old ways and we realized that change is actually REALLY REALLY hard.

The world is rapidly changing, which means we must change with it. We have to reevaluate what we believe in, how we think and interact with people and what actions we must take to deal with all this change. It's a whole redo.

Change is a harsh fact of life, but many of us don't want to change. This unwillingness to change is actually our unwillingness to grow.

There might have been a time when we considered changing a little, but after so many challenges and failings, some of us have decided we just like the way things are and see no need to change anything.

We have become content in our lazy chair and have decided we are happy with that, because change means getting out of that comfy chair and moving somewhere else. Somewhere unknown.

We resist new or different things that make us uncomfortable or would require us to work. We hesitate, excuse, justify and resist things that might make us change our beliefs, change our reasoning or change behavior.

Many of our personal problems and the problems of the world are because of our thinking, attitudes, rituals, habits and how they conflict with persons close to us and society as a whole.

People fight against each other because each side wants something different. We don't want anyone messing with our lives, so we pick the group that represents us best and fight against the other to leave everything as they are.

We want what we want and change means losing.

Losing friends, losing money, losing our favorite activities, losing our current way of life or losing our identity and who we think we are.

And as Christians, that also means we don't want to change ourselves spiritually.

God has much He wants to teach us, but we really don't want to accept any lessons that might force us to reevaluate ourselves and change the status quo. By resisting change, we are resisting God. We say that we are open to God, but when it comes down to it, many of us have closed the door and locked it shut.

We are like children who don't want to grow up.

Though we are content to stay young and stupid, God wants us to grow up to be mature Children of God. Moving closer to God means becoming more like Jesus which means everything has to change.

Unbelievably, many Christians are content not to move forward. They know the rules, they like the people, they like the service, they know what to expect. Perfect. "I'm fine with everything the way that it is, thank you very much."

Many think that if they open themselves to God too much, He might ask them to do something like be more outspoken about their faith or preach on the streets or send them away to become a missionary! NO! Not that.

So we are careful not to be TOO open with God.

Yet we all want to be closer to God and more spiritual.

Real spirituality comes when we are allowing God to teach and mold us everyday, but in order to learn anything, we have to be open to let God expand our hearts and minds to His truths.

Every day God confronts us with our thoughts, beliefs, behavior and actions. Instead of ignoring, resisting and dismissing, we need to consider, think, pray, listen and have a deep conversation with God to understand where we are, where we are going and what we need to do to better ourselves to serve Him.

And then we need to act on those changes and yes, that means doing everything differently. We might have to be more aware, more understanding, more compassionate, more forgiving, more prayerful, more proactive and more loving.

God is the only one who can change us from the inside out, but we must take the first step to open ourselves to Him.

"When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known. And now these three remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love."

- 1 Corinthians 13:11-13


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